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I’m a big-chested girl and did a summer tops haul – I found the best braless option to support the girls
A TIKTOKER did a shopping haul of the best summer tops for those who have a bigger chest – here is what she called the best braless option to support the girls.
It’s hard to find that perfect top that is both supportive and comfortable while also complimenting your body type.
Monika Mancini shared her favorite summer tops for women with big boobs, including this high-neck top with cutouts[/caption]
Monika also recommended scoop-neck tank tops[/caption]
Monika Mancini (@monikkamancini) creates TikTok content catered to women with big boobs who need recommendations on which clothes to get that will accommodate their chests.
“Here are my favorite summer tops for bigger chests,” she said in a recent video. “I know how hard it can be to find tops that support your things.”
The first top she tried on was a floral piece with a knot in the front, which she got from Abercrombie and said was her favorite.
“I’m actually braless right now,” she said, showing how supportive the top was.
“The knot style on a bigger chest is really flattering,” she added, talking about the wonderful prints and adjustable straps for added comfort.
The next top was an adjustable corset from White Fox that Monika said was perfect for the summer.
“And it’s got adjustable straps. Also, I’m braless and it’s supporting the girls,” she said.
Next, Monika wore a black, floral scoop-neck tank top from Hollister with mesh on the bottom half.
“I wear a black bra with this one and it kind of makes the straps look a little thicker,” she said.
Next was a white twist top from Abercrombie with a bit of a peephole in the chest.
“Right now I’m wearing a black bra underneath so you can kind of see that,” said Monika. “But usually I wear a skin-color bra and it’s all good.”
She also complimented the thick, supportive straps that will hide your bra strap.
Monika put on a high-neck top with cut-outs from Pretty Little Thing that she said gave her a lot of compliments when she wore it in Barcelona.
“I’m obsessed with the little slits and ties on the side,” she said.
However, she said she would style this top with a white bralette to “let the lace peek through.”
Knot tops, such as this one, are very supportive, said Monika[/caption]
It’s almost important to get tops with adjustable straps for the best comfort[/caption]
I have big boobs – I did a bikini haul and found the best tops to ‘support the girls’ and keep things from spilling out
A TIKTOKER has found the best bikini tops for those who have a bigger bust – she says these tops “support the girls” and keeps things from spilling out.
As summer approaches, shoppers are scrambling to find the perfect swimsuit, but finding one that supports all your assets while also being comfortable might seem daunting.
Monika Mancini, a TikToker, shared the best Abercrombie bikini tops for people with big boobs[/caption]
She said she was looking for tops that ‘supported the girls’ while also being comfortable to wear[/caption]
Monika Mancini (@monikkamancini) started a series on her TikTok account where she shared her shopping haul of bikini tops for larger busts.
The first brand she decided to showcase was Abercrombie, saying she bought every single style that was available.
“Okay, damn. We’re starting really strong,” Monika said as she modeled the first top.
She tried on the Wide Strap Pleated Underwire Bikini Top in the color green and was quick to reveal how comfortable it was.
“Not only does it have adjustable straps but this is also adjustable,” she said pointing towards the waistband at the back of the bikini top.
The next top, however, wasn’t a winner as Monika complained that the straps of the top were digging into her shoulder.
“I feel like there’s not much support with this one,” she said. “Also getting some spillage on the side.”
However, with the third top, Monika said she could play beach volleyball with it.
“Supporting the girls and has nice thick straps,” she said.
The TikToker added that the style of the cups made her chest “appear a lot smaller.”
The last top Monika tried on was one that she doesn’t usually gravitate toward.
“I’ve honestly never had a triangle bikini top fit me so well,” she said.
“I’m not getting any side boob here,” she added, pointing toward the sides of the bikini top. “It’s really supportive.”
She also explained that the straps of the top didn’t tie around the neck, avoiding any neck pain while wearing it.
The top had adjustable straps around the shoulders and at the waistband.
“These are definitely the kinds of tops you wanna look for when you have a bigger chest,” she said.
“Because anything around the shoulder or, like, neck kills.”
Her video received nearly 70,000 views and several comments from people raving about her reviews.
“Literally so helpful,” wrote one person. “Thank you.”
Another person said: “I’m a 30DD and got the black curve love one in xs and it was perfect! I was soo pleased.”
“These fit me like a glove!” wrote a third person. “Swimsuits NEVER fit me as a 32G.”
This black top was a big winner, with Monika saying she could probably play beach volleyball with it on[/caption]
This triangle top shockingly had a lot of support, something Monika said she wasn’t expecting[/caption]
I’m plus-size with big, saggy boobs – my Amazon secret weapon has a ‘crazy’ effect on your girls, I’m obsessed
A PLUS-SIZE woman has shared one product that helps lift her “saggy” boobs.
She said she’s obsessed with the affordable product and its “crazy” effect it has on her girls.
Chiara (@baldiechi) shared the product recommendation in a video with over 290,000 TikTok followers.
She reacted to another influencer’s attempt at using boob tape: “If you’ve got big ti***s, do not buy that tape,” she said.
She held up a similar roll of tape, explaining that she already made the mistake of trying it out.
“I have big saggy ti****s and the only tape I will use is this one,” she said, holding up a wider roll of boob tape, $13.
“It’s literally double the width of the original tape and just to show you how good it works this is the girls with no tape at all,” she said, showing off her chest in a brown T-shirt.
She demonstrated cutting out a big piece of tape and utilizing the lift method the girl showed in the video she reacted to.
She went off-camera to apply the tape on one boob and came back to show the difference on her chest.
“This is the difference between one piece of tape and nothing,” she said.
“That is crazy… that is crazy!” she said in shock.
She added that the tape was incredibly long-wearing: “I literally wore it from 10am until past midnight and it was perfect still and literally seamless,” she said.
People took to the comments to share their thoughts on her recommendation.
“You’re literally a queen for never gatekeeping,” said one commenter.
“I have been influenced!! Runninggg to the Amazone storefront,” said another.
“Thank you so much u angel!” said a third.
She showed off the ‘crazy’ lift effect the tape had on her girls[/caption]
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New Songs: Ciara – ‘Da Girls (R&B Slow Mix)’ [featuring Derrick Milano] & ‘Da Girls (Dance Mix)’ [featuring Lay Bankz]
Ciara continues to level up the production value of her latest single, ‘Da Girls.’
After watching the sizzling cut’s original solo incarnation earn critical acclaim from her loyal fan base, affectionately called the #CSquad, upon its March 24 release, she spruced the tune up weeks later with a remix featuring Lola Brooke and Lady London.
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New Video: Victoria Monet – ‘Party Girls’ (featuring Buju Banton)
Not even two months after Victoria Monet pounced to critical acclaim with ‘Smoke,’ the first single from her forthcoming ‘Jaguar II’ project, the beloved singer-songwriter is looking to repeat the feat with its follow-up: ‘Party Girls.’
“No more backs on the wall / Come pull me close to you / Rock me deep into the morning / ‘Cause by sunrise I’ll be gone,” she croons on the island-flavored cut which boasts dancehall star Buju Banton as a co-star.
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4 ways to help girls thrive online
Parents paying close attention to news headlines would be justifiably worried about the risks of letting their adolescent or teen girl spend too much time online. The intense scrutiny that began in 2021 with explosive revelations about Meta‘s own internal research on female teen users has continued with government investigations into social media platforms that may, among other things, encourage young girls to compare themselves to peers and influencers in potentially harmful ways.
It’s not that TikTok, Instagram, Snapchat, and other platforms are inherently bad. Or that parents can draw a straight line from a teen girl’s constant scrolling to lower self-confidence or feelings of worthlessness. Instead, like many adults, girls can get caught up in a toxic swirl of social comparison, wanting to belong, and risky vulnerability.
This may be even more true for girls experiencing puberty at an earlier age than their mothers or grandmothers. That trend, which has seen puberty for girls around the world continue to happen earlier each decade, specifically puts girls at higher risk of developing depression, in addition to other mental health challenges. (Separately, early-onset puberty, or when puberty happens for girls prior to age 8, is a relatively uncommon condition.)
All of this is happening at an already delicate time in adolescent and teen girls’ lives, during a phase when they’re trying to develop a strong sense of self and the ability to deal with overwhelming feelings, as well as stitch together a safety net of fulfilling offline relationships. Aspects of the internet, particularly social media algorithms, can exploit some girls’ insecurities, drawing them deeper into self-doubt or even exposing them to bullying and dangerous content, like radicalized political message boards and influencers who promote disordered eating.
Despite these very real fears, parents and caregivers can help girls thrive online by turning to well-known techniques, like rules for screen time and increased media literacy, as well as strategies that boost a girl’s resiliency, which include praising a girl’s positive behaviors and qualities and helping her build an offline life that gives her a sense of belonging and mattering.
Screen time guidance for teen girls
The most common guidance may sound familiar, but it bears repeating:
Model healthy internet use. Dr. Jason Nagata, an assistant professor of pediatrics in the division of adolescent and young adult medicine at the University of California at San Francisco, says that one of the most important predictors of how an adolescent uses screens is their parents’ behavior. This means that parents need to respect whatever boundaries they’ve set for the household, including no texting at dinner, or putting phones away an hour before bedtime.
“If you’re telling your kid one thing, and you’re breaking those rules, they’re not going to listen to you, or they’re just going to emulate what they see,” says Nagata, whose research in the Adolescent Brain Cognitive Development (ABCD) study has found links between screen use and binge-eating and disruptive behavior disorders in youth and teens.
Make sure screens aren’t displacing healthy, enjoyable activities. Nagata says that screen time shouldn’t lead to reduced in-person socializing, offline hobbies, physical activity, and sleep. Turning off notifications and taking social media breaks when screen time becomes stressful helps preserve time for other important activities, which creates a buffer against the negative messages girls may encounter online.
“If you’re telling your kid one thing, and you’re breaking those rules, they’re not going to listen to you, or they’re just going to emulate what they see.”
Talk about different challenging scenarios. Parents should have conversations with their children about how to handle various kinds of negative online experiences, like bullying and being targeted with weight-loss ads. Helping a teen problem-solve in advance can give girls an advantage in the future. Parents also shouldn’t underestimate the role that peers and influencers play in girls’ online lives, especially when it comes to body image.
Nagata often treats teen girls hospitalized with eating disorders, many of whom struggle to stop scanning their favorite social media accounts for weight-loss tips, even as they’re receiving care. He also sees girls who develop an association between screen use and binge-eating disorders, which are more common than anorexia and restrictive food intake disorders. (Eating disorders occur in boys as well, and sometimes go undetected because of gendered stereotypes about who’s most affected by such conditions.)
Nagata says that while there are some benefits for teens who use social media, like staying in touch with family and friends, others struggle in concerning ways.
“[I] think there are also teens who get stuck in some of these eating disorder or body image traps where they’re constantly comparing themselves to others, and it can detrimentally affect their mental health,” he says.
Helping girls cope with screen time and social media
In her book, Girls on the Brink: Helping Our Daughters Thrive in an Era of Increased Anxiety, Depression, and Social Media, science journalist Donna Jackson Nakazawa reiterates well-known advice about girls and screen use, but it’s her focus on empowering girls in all areas of their lives that parents will find refreshingly helpful. These strategies include:
1. Protecting a girl’s “in-between years.”
From ages 7 to 13, between childhood and adolescence, girls are in a period known as the “in-between years.” Nakazawa says that during this unique time, a girl’s brain is still developing the ability to handle stress. Yet girls often face heightened pressure from parents (and other adults) to do well in school and extracurricular activities. If they’re using social media a lot during this time, they’re also invited to constantly compare themselves to others, take in peer feedback on social media posts, see advertisements related to body image, and watch young female peers present themselves in more mature or sexualized ways. And if a girl goes through puberty at a younger age while also experiencing high stress levels, this dynamic can be harmful.
“[W]hen puberty comes in early, the parts of the brain that help put social and emotional distress in proper context haven’t yet wired and fired up,” says Nakazawa.
She urges parents to thoughtfully guide girls through this developmental stage. This includes understanding how and when girls are exposed to stressful messaging. A smartwatch, for example, might seem like a good compromise instead of getting a phone, but Nakazawa points out that girls can often access the same apps and messaging platforms available on a smartphone. Instead of forbidding access to internet-enabled devices, Nakazawa recommends being aware of what a girl is seeing or doing on them, how that could exacerbate the normal challenges of the in-between years, and finding welcome ways to protect their well-being. Dedicated time for rest, physical activity, socializing, and intellectual exploration, with less emphasis on competition and performance, can provide a much-needed counterweight to online pressures.
2. Being someone a girl can talk to about hard things.
Teens may be notoriously fickle when it comes to confiding in their parents, but Nakazawa says it’s worth the effort of consistently positioning themselves as an empathetic, nonjudgmental listener, including where online conflict is concerned. If a girl discovers she’s the only person from her friend circle not to get a party invite, or if she becomes a victim of dogpiling for a comment she made online, she should be able to process such experiences with a calm parent or caregiver.
“These are the kinds of discussions that happen during puberty and adolescence and childhood that really shape our child’s sense of belonging and mattering,” says Nakazawa. “You need to know how your child is feeling in today’s world, in this onslaught, so that you can turn that into a conversation of connection and follow up on it.”
Parents should do their best to make all hard conversations a positive experience for their daughter. An important element of this is ensuring her psychological safety during these chats, which Nakazawa describes in her book as an ability for a girl to “be insecure, imperfect, angry, confused, needy, anxious, or unhappy (or all of the above), and still be loved.” Countless people online may insist that the opposite is true, but it can make a profound difference for a girl’s mental health if her caregivers regularly offer to listen with unconditional support.
3. Noticing and praising a girl’s positive behaviors and qualities.
Nakazawa says that noticing a girl’s positive qualities — unrelated to her appearance or performance — is a powerful antidote against harsh peer criticism and self-judgment that can become common during adolescence. In fact, Nakazawa cites research showing that teens who face intense pressure to excel, and whose parents make it clear that their children have fallen short of high standards for grades, activities, and accomplishments, are at higher risk for depression and anxiety. When this dynamic collides with algorithms that encourage peer comparison, girls can feel like they’re never good enough.
Parents can still set reasonable limits and expectations, but Nakazawa says they should be focused on helping their children cultivate resilience and feel connected to family and community. Instead of critically evaluating their child’s performance, Nakazawa encourages parents to praise their positive character traits and virtues. Her examples include phrases like, “One of the things I love about you is that you are so thoughtful to your friends,” or “I notice the way you always follow through on things. That takes a lot of effort, and it’s a wonderful quality.”
4. Helping girls create their own in-person community.
Supporting a girl as she builds her own community is one of the most important things a parent can do, says Nakazawa. She refers to this as the “community effect,” wherein girls develop meaningful relationships with adults like grandparents, coaches, teachers, mentors, and even a therapist or healing professional. Nakazawa says these relationships give girls the sense that they’re safe, and have a place, in a larger community. They also help girls feel like they matter. Belonging is a key protective factor against psychological distress, including suicidal thinking, and it may help lessen the pain related to negative online experiences.
Parents should also help a girl explore her interests in the context of her community. Whether that’s gardening, science, running, or spirituality, it’s important for girls to develop a sense of purpose and joy during the in-between years. It helps when girls can do this in relationship with their friends and peers. Moderate screen time can certainly make this process more exciting by introducing girls to online resources and communities, but parents can help focus their child’s passion on confidence-building in-person activities.
Encouraging girls to make their offline community more engaging than their online world may create a buffer against excessive screen time, and help them put upsetting online experiences into perspective.
“There are so many ways to [help a girl build community] if we just put the phones down as adults and go looking for all of those different invitations by noticing what really gets our daughter excited, and following that spark with real people, in real time, in our real communities,” says Nakazawa.
If your child is feeling suicidal or experiencing a mental health crisis, please talk to somebody. You can reach the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline at 988; the Trans Lifeline at 877-565-8860; or the Trevor Project at 866-488-7386. Text “START” to Crisis Text Line at 741-741. Contact the NAMI HelpLine at 1-800-950-NAMI, Monday through Friday from 10:00 a.m. – 10:00 p.m. ET, or email info@nami.org. If you don’t like the phone, consider using the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline Chat at crisischat.org. Here is a list of international resources. If you’d like to talk to someone about your child’s eating behavior, call the National Eating Disorder Association’s helpline at 800-931-2237.
This story, originally published in September 2022, was updated in May 2023.
We put up a fence to stop our creepy neighbour but he keeps finding a way to perv on my teenage girls
DEAR DEIDRE: OUR new neighbour is a peeping Tom.
He keeps finding ways to spy on me and my teenage girls despite my efforts to fit a garden fence and gate.
He is in his fifties and only leaves the house to walk his dog.
When we moved in, there was a small border that divided our gardens.
Each time my daughters would sit outside he would instantaneously appear in his garden to stare at them.
My daughters are 17 and 15.
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The youngest says he gives her the creeps.
She tells me one day while I was out he approached her in the garden, complimented her on her dress and asked how old she was.
I’m 49 and that was it for me.
I ordered a garden gate and fence to be fitted that week to let him know I’m on to him, and to keep him away.
Since then, whenever my daughters or I are in the garden, hanging the washing even, I catch him looking from his upstairs window.
And now, to my astonishment, he’s installed CCTV cameras at the front and rear of his house.
The cameras at the back of his property are pointing into our garden.
I feel like he’s spying on us and it’s beginning to make me and my daughters feel increasingly uncomfortable.
None of us want to go in the garden.
I reported this to the police but they haven’t even spoken to him.
DEIDRE SAYS: Your home is meant to be a place of safety and you have every right to protect that.
You did the right thing to fit a fence.
While there’s no law against home owners installing CCTV, if you can demonstrate the cameras are pointing at your property this becomes a privacy issue.
Contact your local authority and the police again and ask them to investigate.
You can also contact the National Stalking Helpline (stalkinghelpline.org, 0808 802 0300) who help anyone who is being stalked or feels harassed.
Please also keep a log of all your dealings with your neighbour, detailing times, dates and the incident, as this will help your case.