The opposite evening over dinner, my son was telling us a couple of buddy of his who was being bullied at school. He’s a brilliant good 13-year-old, however very shy, and at a brand new college, so he’s with out his posse from final yr. A classmate picked up on his awkwardness with that bizarre weakness-radar that bullies possess, and now she insults him in school often. It’s a traditional mean-kid-picking-on-shy-kid situation.
His college has a “no bullying” coverage, however this can be a intelligent bully, efficient at inflicting emotional misery in seemingly harmless methods, leaving the sufferer no speedy recourse—you may’t actually go as much as a instructor and say, “She mentioned I had good hair, but it surely’s the means she mentioned it!”
My spouse and I spotted that past “avoid her as a lot as potential,” we had little or no useful recommendation to supply. “Bullies will in all probability really feel dangerous concerning the folks they focused in some unspecified time in the future later of their life, and ship a bizarre Fb message that your buddy will really feel conflicted about” isn’t significantly helpful. Neither is “Bullying? Jesus Christ, strive paying a mortgage.”
Numerous the usual ideas for this type of bullying appears woefully naive. I imply, “inform them they damage your emotions?” That’s the entire level, proper? And any self-respecting bully would reply with “I’m so, so sorry.” (However it might be the means they are saying it.)
Different frequent recommendation—“reply with a humorous zinger of your individual” or “be more confident”—depends on the bullied possessing traits that they clearly lack, or they wouldn’t be being picked on within the first place.
So I’m going to throw it open to you, readers: What ideas do you have got for a child who’s coping with the sort of bullying that you may’t precisely report back to directors? Depart your options within the feedback, and we’ll spherical up them up and share them with others. Oh, and that’s a actually good shirt. Completely fits your fashion, champ.