DEAR DEIDRE: ONLINE dating is a mystery to me. I am a 34-year-old single woman.
Should I tell dates straight away that I am looking for a serious relationship and then get to know them, or wait until we’ve been seeing each other for a while and wait for them to bring it up naturally.
Should I assume that all he wants is something casual if he doesn’t bring it up?
I met one nice guy online but I never told him I wanted a relationship.
I just assumed he’d have told me that I was his girlfriend or asked me if I wanted to be official.
Eventually our dates fizzled out.
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I’m so confused about how to play it.
The best relationships often start with friendship.
You can say you want a serious relationship immediately, but that doesn’t mean you will get one.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Serious relationships develop over time.
It’s not something you can ask for or demand.
As time goes on and you get to know each other, a relationship will develop.
There is no magic formula here.
But take your time and if it feels right, suggest becoming exclusive.
My support pack Love Online explains more.
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